Religion versus relationship

Some people belong to a religion instead of having a relationship with God. Some people even think they know God enough to kill somebody sometimes also and take another person's life. Jesus died on the cross in a way that is going away from the world to God I see.. God also left Jesus on the cross I know he said my God my God why have you forsaken me as God poured out his wrath on Jesus for the sins of the world the Father looked away or something. Maybe in hell their is no longer any presence of God or consciousness of God I don't know. Immanual the Bible says they would call Jesus meaning God with us. Jesus can give you the baptism of the Holy Spirit also the Bible says. If your baptized in the Spirit you speak in tongues the Bible says. James wrote how the tongue can be like the helm of a ship or a horses bridle controls a horse and how the tongue is a little member but boasts great things and is a fire and even a hell the taste buds are never satisfied the Bible says no man can tame the tongue so it's important to give the tongue to God. Surrendering it to the Spirit. It is a unruly evil James says full of deadly poison. Cursing and blessing come out of the same tongue. In a relationship with God you talk to him. That's what God wants to give through Jesus Christ I believe. I believe Jesus can give us a personal relationship with God.